Being a parent is rough - especially when you have a very inquisitive 4 year old. We have always been pretty candid and straight forward with Anna on a number of things like the names of the private parts or where babies come from (no storks at our house!). Of course though we try to simplify things to get down to her level of understanding.
In the past year Anna has gone to Sunday School, Vacation Bible School, we do a nightly devotional with her before bed and talk about God and Jesus daily. Again, we are simplifying things to help her understand things that to be honest, Chad and I don't always fully grasp!
We must be doing something right as she is often asking us questions about God or reaffirming the things that God would have on his "list" of dos and don'ts. We even hear of some proselytizing going on at daycare like when one of the kids said that he was the strongest and Anna corrected him to say, "No. God is the strongest!"
We often can answer her questions but this has gotten harder and harder! This past March we had to put our
cat to sleep. We explained it all to her and in the end said that Tigger went to heaven. (Do animals go to heaven?) That was comforting to her but she is still, 5 months later, having a hard time with how he actually got there. So our over simplifying has brought on more good questions. Who brought him there? Did the vet? How did his body get way up there? Ok, so his body stayed here but his spirit went? Well, how did his spirit get there? Did he get a new body? Etc.... We answer them the best we can and sometimes we even just say we don't know! Oh, we always want to have the answers though.
Then this morning, I got a question I really didn't know how to answer in the right way for a 4 year old. It stems from the over simplifying talk that Goad is always with us! Here is the conversation:
Anna: Mommy, God is always with us right?
Me: Yep, that is right. He can be everywhere and is always with us.
Anna: How does he see all of us, with like a big TV screen and we look like real people?
Me: I don't think that is the way it is. He is so powerful that he is able to be with everyone always.
Anna: So, we can pray to God always. If we are in trouble or need to talk to him we can just pray.
Me: Yep, you can always pray to God. And when you have questions or are sad is a good time to pray.
Anna: So, if we are in trouble like we are in water and we can't swim or breathe we can pray and God will come and save us.
Me: *Gasp* Ummmmm, welllll, that is not exactly how it works. Ummm!!!! We can pray to God for help but other people would have to help you too.
Anna: Ohhhhh, you mean like lifeguards. Mom, what is Mary going to have for breakfast today?
I was saved by the short attention span of a pre-schooler! I know that conversation isn't over as she has a tendency to bring things like that up over and over again. So, now I am racking my brain for the best way to answer that question. That question of why some people are "saved" from situations like that and some aren't! Ugh! Any suggestions?
I am sure we will have an answer that will appease her but then we will move onto the next hard question that we won't know how to answer. Things you don't think about when you have a baby that is suddenly all grown up with grown up questions.